In my post yesterday, I took three awesome philosophies from a friend of mine who just finished climbing to Everest base camp and applied them to writing. In reality, these philosophies could be applied to anything you do, but because this is a writing blog, I’m giving you my two cents on working with the pen, or in this case, the Macbook. The two things I’m going to talk about today have to do with teamwork and support. A difficult subject for my fellow introverts.
4) Take some friends with you. You will need to help and encourage each other. He continues by saying that this person needs to have the same goal and commitment as you. In writing, this means you might have to actively search for and find like-minded people. I have one friend who is a published writer. We met each other when we worked at the same school. She is someone who I can turn to for advice. She’s someone who has been there and done that. I have other friends who say they have written something, but I don’t see it being an active part of their life. They lack the commitment. I know what that looks like because I was one of those people.
I used to listen to a lot of Dave Ramsey and I also listen to the Model Health Show with Shawn Stevens. Ramsey will always tell you that you will be as rich as the ten people you hang out with the most. On the Model Health Show, one of the guests talked about how we assimilate the traits of the people we are closest to. If you hang out with a bunch of unhealthy people, you will take on those traits. If a lot of your closest friends are getting divorced, hang onto your spouse even tighter.
So how do you change this? Actively seek people who have the same goals and commitment as you. If you want to be rich, hang out and find mentors who have wealth. If you want to have a loving relationship with your spouse, hang out with couples who having loving and committed relationships and learn how to grow yours. If you want to be a better and more successful writer, learn from those who have been there and encourage each other along the way. Life is a process, not a destination. We all need help and encouragement.
5) It important to have a support network back home.
My husband has been invaluable to me along the way. I am reading the book Mindsets by Carol S. Dweck where she says that partners should help the other do the things they want and become the person they want to be. That is what Tom has been to me. When I first started writing, I just earned my masters degree in teaching reading. My kids were small at the time. Throughout that year and a half process, Tom would take the kids and entertain them every Saturday and Sunday so I could read and write a paper. After I finished my degree and started to write novels, he still entertained the kids on Saturday afternoons so I could spend some time in my book. But he knows that I would do the same for him.
Tom has been my greatest champion. When I won Dan Alatorre’s Word Weaver Writing contest, he and the kids decorated the dining room and had a party for me. It touched my heart. He wants me to succeed and this is the greatest gift of all. Who has been your champion along the way? Have you gone it alone?
Tomorrow I will wrap up this series. See you then.